Have you ever been in a situation where you’re helping someone at the expense of your mental stability? A situation where you can no longer mentally endure the ‘hand-holding’? A situation where the more you are there for someone, the less you have to give to yourself?
I’m here to tell you, that’s normal and it’s not just you! You and your sanity are much more important than anyone else could ever be. Believe me. If you find yourself becoming someone’s oxygen and their voice of reason for the good, the bad and the ugly in life, then you need to distance yourself.
This is a toxic way to live and soon or later, you’ll feel so drained it will make you question your own ability to please another and send you into a downward spiral of insecurity. Focus on yourself.
The phrase ‘I’m doing me’ has never made more sense. If someone is taking up all of your time, energy and mental space then you need to reconsider their position in your life. In fact, the problem here is your position in THEIR life. Some people will place you at the forefront of everything they feel and do. While that may seem endearing to some, I find that to be extremely unhealthy and a loss of independence, decision-making power and self-worth.
So, think about those people who want you to hold their hand through life. Think about whether or not you’re still giving yourself the love and attention you once did. If you are experiencing a significant attention-deficit coming from yourself, you need to know that the consequences are dire and you need to reassess the circumstances you are facing.
Please remember to give yourself 100% before you decide to give your energy and mental headspace to another. If you feel they are draining you and leeching off your positivity, remove yourself from the equation.
Mental health is important – stay sane and love yourself.