Graduated, now what?! 😩

One year on and university seems like a lifetime ago! Time flies once you graduate and you can’t do anything to stop it! 

If you’re graduating this summer or you’ve already graduated – this post is for you! If you’re just starting uni, all I can say is enjoy EVERY SINGLE MOMENT 🙏🏼 (you probably don’t wanna read this blog just yet – come back in a few years when you’re ready to feel like this LOL)

So you’ve just graduated or you’re ready to graduate but you have no clue what you’re doing after these three awesome years that didn’t actually set you up for the working world? Uh oh that wasn’t meant to happen right?!

Don’t worry, the majority of graduates are in the same boat as you. In fact, my friends and I were in the same position a year ago but we’ve all come a long way!

THE KEY IS PERSPECTIVE

Know that at this moment in your life, you have the gift of choice. In fact, you have the most freedom of choice that you’ll probably ever have in life. You can do anything. This isn’t some cliche inspirational shit I’m spittin’ right now. Just take a minute and think….

YOU. ARE. FREE. 

You have nothing holding you back from exploring different avenues and trying different jobs/careers/experiences. You’re young and you should really start believing it when people tell you that. I had always heard and felt that once you graduate, you will start working and feel old and have no time for a social life.

That may be true in some cases, but 9 times out of 10, your job will not take away your evenings and most definitely not your weekends! But I digress, we haven’t found jobs yet! 😂

It is so easy to fall into the trap of feeling like there is nothing out there for you. No doubt you’ll go through the motions and hear yourself saying:

“Shit, this is it for me. I’m never going to get that job I wanted (or expected) after uni! Why is it so difficult?!”

Granted, it is fiercely competitive nowadays. But positivity is what gets you through to the next level. Being positive has allowed me to 1). Realise what it is I’ve wanted to do and 2). Go for it and make it happen.

HOW DO YOU STAY SO POSITIVE?

This is something I get asked a lot by friends and family alike. The truth is, it’s just perspective. I see the bigger picture – I associate uncertainty with excitement. Not knowing what’s around the corner is as exciting as it is scary! If you think the same way, you’ll start seeing things as opportunities rather than obstacles. 

Not knowing what you want to do is definitely not a negative thing. It gives you scope to be the best that you can be and explore parts of your skill set that you never knew existed. Try an entry level office job, go travelling, volunteer in the local or international community, get involved in social events and groups. These will build your networks both socially and professionally, whilst giving you ample experience and skills. It’s a win-win. 

The best thing to do is start earning some money as soon as you can. This will do two things for you:

1). You’ll get some experience of the world of work and at the same time, you’ll start discovering what you like/what you don’t like in a job. Now you know what you want from your future career! 

2). You’ll have money – can’t really say much more than that. You can spend it however you like, at least you’ll be self sufficient 👏🏻

Applying for jobs isn’t half as much of a chore as it can feel once you get into it. It can be a real bore and quite tedious at times but honestly, once you get into it you’ll be sending HELLA applications! 

Hopefully (fingers crossed), by now you’re feeling a little better about the prospect of graduating without a job secured. If you DO know what you’ll be doing, this still applies! Never say no to an opportunity for growth and experience. Make yourself available and flexible wherever possible. These are the years where you can really get ahead of life and experience careers, cultures and comversations 🙌🏼 

EVERYTHING IS ON THE CARDS – GET EXCITED BECAUSE LIFE IS ABOUT TO       HAPPEN!

Silver spoon? No, thanks 🖕🏻


(DISCLAIMER: these are ALL my own thoughts and no rich people were harmed in the making of this post 😂)

If you’ve ever had to really work hard to get to a place that raises your social status, chances are you probably weren’t born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

Be grateful! You’re one of the lucky ones – and here’s why:

YOU KNOW THE VALUE OF MONEY

You probably know exactly where your money and your parents money has come from. You know that you were born to work hard and earn your coin. We don’t do trust funds – that’s a get out of jail free card used by lazy parents who don’t want to deal with helping their kids through the struggles (sorry not sorry).

If you didn’t like what I just said, you might want to stop reading.

YOU KNOW YOU WILL HAVE TO TRY MUCH HARDER THAN YOUR WEALTHIER PEERS

Once again, opportunity comes far and few for people like us. The working class, those with humility and those who know the meaning of blood, sweat and tears. You’ve probably seen your parents and/or grandparents endure real hardship to get to where they are today. You are the product of physical and emotional pain, unfairness, social division, racism, hate crimes and much more. You didn’t inherit ‘daddy’s credit card’. 

That’s why you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, to get to where you want your kids to start their lives. You also know that you’ll always have to make double the applications to get that job. You’ll have to make sure you make the grades to get into that top university – none of this will be down to your father’s links in society. It will always be down to you.

You will be responsible for your own destiny in this world. That can be both positive and negative. You are the reason you make it but you’re also the reason you don’t . Unfortunately, the reason you haven’t made it yet (providing you’re trying) is either because you’re of colour or lower down the pecking order of society or you aren’t trying hard enough. 

WILL I EVER MAKE IT?

Oh you will make it, no doubt and when you do, you’ll know you earned it and you’ll know the true feeling of success. The rich kid from school who ended up in Oxford or Cambridge because his daddy made a few calls or paid his way through private school and showered him with expensive tools for ‘success’ will never feel that. 

If you’ve never climbed a mountain, you’ll never have what it takes to be at the top. Being born at the top is the last thing I’d wish upon anyone. Work your way up and you will see success. Be born rich and you’ll see cash. It’s just not worth it.

FINALLY..

Never give up on your dreams and don’t let minor setbacks throw you off. Setbacks are common for people like us – the working class. Believe me when I say, hard work pays off. Why should you believe me? Because I am living it and will continue to live it. No one can stop you from achieving your dreams – they can only slow you down. Remember, the world doesn’t want you to win, you’ve got to take it. Be forceful and live your life!

Here we are…finally!

Sooooooooo, after a long hour (it was probably 15 minutes)…I’m here. The first post! 

I couldn’t figure out how to get rid of this other blog I had and all kinds of other technical crap was holding me up but we did it! 

This post isn’t going to be anything too fancy but just an introduction. I’m 22 (‘you don’t look it’ – ‘aww thanks’), I live in London and I like to think I’m just getting on this big ol’ rollercoaster called life. So I thought, who better to share the journey with than all of you?! 

Everything up til this moment has been crazy! I’ve seen and done a lot of weird and wonderful things – I’m sure they’ll be discovered as time goes on 😂

“IM BORED ALREADY, WHAT IS THIS REALLY ABOUT?!?”

Well, this blog will be about my daily life, interests, travels, aspirations, advice, and just general thoughts on random things! I’ve always wanted to have some place I could express my thoughts on everything that goes on in my mind and in the world. 

So, I hope you enjoy all my weird posts to follow…come and undress your thoughts with me 🙏🏼